Parent and Teen Therapy
Parenting teens can be tough. I know; my 4 children were all teenagers at the same time-19,17,15,13. Yes, all are biologically mine. Yes, all from the same Father and raised together from birth. One long term marriage.Yes, I am still alive to tell about it. They are adults now, except for the youngest who turns 20 this year. It feels good to be able to say that. A lot of blood, sweat and tears went into those 4 terrific kids I had the privilege of raising.
We had our ups and downs but we made it through. As a Parent and a Therapist, I will share some helpful tips for parenting teenagers.
Boundaries: Teens are striving for Independence so steer them in the right direction while still being clear with setting safe boundaries for them to be successful.
Expectations: Let them know you believe in them and their ability to accomplish hard things. The awkward, confusing, hormonal time of adolescence calls for tons of reassurance and expressions of love along with Parents’ confidence in what is expected of them.
Guidance: Help teens to solve their own problems but talking them through the possible choices they could make and the consequences of each of those choices. Let them experience a few minor disappointments of poor choices without bailing them out too quickly. They will then learn that THEY own the problem and the accompanying distress from poor choices.
Communication: Remember that a teenager’s brain is still developing; adult logical thinking is not yet fully developed and even the smartest of them will say dumb things. Let it “Roll off your back”. They won’t mean it later. So if they threaten to run away with the Circus don’t get pulled into that argument by explaining why its a bad idea. Smile and let them knew you love them and will miss them.
Would you like more information about how to raise a well rounded teen? Contact Elaine.